As a wife and mother of two, I am fortunate to receive all the love, respect, loyalty, affection and so on, that a person with such status can expect. But I do not look forward to this holiday at all. I know that my partner is even less thrilled about it. Not because he would be indifferent, lazy or cheap to me. The reasons are... well, completely reasonable I guess...
Life as parents or adults anyway, is so full of juggling between commitments and priorities from morning to night, that a day in the middle of the week, which in any case is always too short, seems totally unsuitable for hardcore romance with delivering a perfect gift, a romantic dinner and everything else in the protocol.
From my point of view... If we are lucky that we do not forget something urgent (let's say the dentist's appointment, or which of us picks up the children after school), then the evening cuddle in front of the TV with a glass of wine and our favorite series, will be a great victory. Maybe I will propose to open the box of chocolates that he got for his birthday. And it's totally possible that when we'll watch the series, he'll fall asleep leaning on my shoulder, ha, ha... I wasn't meant to be jamming, but this is pretty much all of the romance that we'll sincerely manage to perform on this day.
Generally speaking, we do not like big celebrations in a classic way (anniversaries, birthdays, holidays ...), where we have to force ourselves into high emotional states and be super productive with the ideas and performance, just 'cause this dictates the date on the calendar. Yes, we do celebrate something we want to remember, but we'll make it a low-key, in our own pace and under our terms.
What about you? How do you feel about Valentine's Day and other celebrations? Do you like it in a way the-bigger-the-better, or low-key as well? At any rate or form, hope you have a wonderful day!
Bo Janice, Editor of Instrology.com